Housewives not as desperate
as singles over 40
Newswise — While the sexy singles
on Desperate Housewives’ Wisteria Lane played by actors Teri Hatcher
and Nicollette Sheridan seem to have no problem finding sexual
partners, real life singles over age 40 may not be having as much
luck, according to a new study.
The report published in the
Journal of Aging Studies finds that as they get older, both men
and women report having fewer sexual partners – often no sexual
partners – as a result of cultural beliefs and the biological and
social effects of aging. However, larger numbers of women report
having no partners and at earlier ages than men.
Those who have reached middle age
and are married or living with a partner fare better, although many
report that frequency of the sexual activity has declined. However,
the study focuses on those aged 40 to 59 who are single, divorced or
widowed since the limited social scientific research on aging,
gender and sexuality has mainly looked at sexual activity among
married middle-aged and older people.
“We’ve all seen the seductive 40-
or 50-something divorcee portrayed in the movies who attracts men
like honey draws flies. Think of Susan Sarandon’s character in the
film 'Bull Durham.' However, this appears to be the exception rather
than the rule and maybe that is part of these characters’ allure,”
said Vanderbilt University assistant professor of sociology Laura
Carpenter, who led the study.
Carpenter, with Columbia
University professor Constance Nathanson and John Hopkins University
professor emeritus Young J. Kim, found that a combination of
factors, including older women being viewed by both men, and the
women themselves, as less attractive as they age; conservative
beliefs about premarital sex; older men/younger women pairings and
higher male mortality rates, add up to women having fewer, often no,
sexual partners, particularly after about age 50.
Interestingly, having some or more
college education seems to both increase women’s chances of having
no sexual partners and having multiple sexual partners.
The researchers contribute this
contradictory finding to heterosexual men’s preference of partners
with similar or lower educational attainment, which would result in
a smaller pool of partners for women with higher levels of
education. However, better-educated women may also enjoy more
opportunities to meet potential partners than less well-educated
women.
The study, “Sex After 40? Gender,
ageism and sexual partnering in midlife,” looks at about 1,200
heterosexual men and women age 40 to 59. Of the group, a little over
56 percent were women and about 43 percent were men and they are
representative of the United States population overall in terms of
racial and ethnic background, socioeconomic status and religion. The
1,200, who are aged 53 to 72 today, responded to the 1992 National
Health and Social Life Survey (NHSLS), a project that gathered
detailed information about sexuality not available elsewhere.
The National Opinion Research
Center conducted the survey and conducted more than 3,400 in-person
interviews with respondents randomly drawn from a national sample of
U.S. households. The survey’s response rate was nearly 80 percent.
Only English-speaking adults aged 18 to 59 were eligible to
participate in the NHSLS.
While the outlook may seem grim
for those who wish to have an active sexual life in middle age, the
researchers believe that change is on the horizon as younger Baby
Boomers age and Generation X enters middle age.
“We will probably see an increase
in mass media and other market-driven institutions catering to this
sizable group so new cultural images of middle-aged and older women
and men may emerge, which could have an impact on younger
generations’ views on sexual desire and activity in later life –
particularly if their parents and grandparents continue to see
sexuality as an important part of their lives,” Carpenter said.
“Also, Baby Boomers and Generation
X typically have more liberal sexual attitudes and behaviors – so we
may see a decline in the number of women, and men, who do not seek
sexual partners because of conservative views regarding sex outside
of marriage,” she said.
The study suggests that the 2003
box office success of "Something’s Gotta Give," a romantic comedy
about the sexual relationship between a woman in her late 50s,
played by Diane Keaton, and a man in his early 60s, played by Jack
Nicholson, is a sign that change may already be underway.